When we sit down sometimes amidst the busy days full of beavering and working away, and look around at our cherished accomplishments, do we feel we belong where we are? I always thought belonging is tied to a place. Maybe it’s where our cherished accomplishments are, our physical assets, our family, our friends. Maybe belonging is tied to a person, a loved one, THE one we want to spend the rest of our days with and are willing to go to the ends of the earth together.
I had a great small house in Germany, out the back of my parents house. My job was paying well, I had good career options, lots of friends to hang out with. But something didn’t feel right. Now after over 2 decades I realise I didn’t feel I belonged. Maybe because I needed to see more of the world. So the longing for more diverse experiences got in the way of belonging, or my meaning of belonging at the time.
If I’m longing for something does it mean I don’t have it at that moment? Say I get up early, it’s a lovely day and I long to experience the cool morning air. For it to rush into my lungs as I walk up the hill to greet the rising sun. The moment the warm rays stream over my face, I feel I belong. I belong exactly where I am, right now. I belong on this earth because it’s a very fortunate string of events that lets me be here in the first place, starting with the egg inside my mother when she was conceived. I belong here because I got up and put my shoes on and I walked outside.
Belonging starts with one step, motivated by the longing for change of what is. Action leads to belonging. If we are feeling disconnected, and we go to work every day, have the same conversations every day, have the same thoughts every day, we can take action. We can change the schedule or way to work, switch thoughts, switch conversations. Surprise ourselves and others. When looking at things from a different point of view we create belonging. Even if it’s not our point of view. Using the brain we have is the biggest action we can take to create belonging. That’s where it all starts and the internet is full of actions, mediations, podcasts on increasing consciousness. One doesn’t need to move to the other side of the earth to belong.